The price of growing up.

Some days I'm absolutely gob-smacked by the words that come out of peoples mouths.

More so when it comes from the mouth of a friend.

As I come closer to my 26th birthday, I realize how many people I would love to stay friends with, but feel I might have out grown.

I enjoy how my life has evolved. The trials I have endured, the bad situations I've put my self in and some how made it through a wiser woman- they all have contributed to the way I choose to live my life now. I feel a sense of pride when I look at my husband and son, the home we've built as a family and the choices we make daily to ensure the happy and healthy longevity of said family.

But somewhere along the line, I moved in leaps and bounds ahead some of my best friends.

They don't seem to understand why I cant come out drinking with them, or get a tattoo on a whim as I have done in the past. I don't have time to listen to how they are having problems with their parents (because they live at home STILL), I have a child to feed, and dinner to get on the table.

They don't understand why they cant crash on my couch anymore, or why I wont let them stay in our guest room rent free for a "few months".

They wonder why I've "changed so much" and why I'm so "down on their ideas".

It's hard to explain to a person that refuses to hold a job, that my husbands job & the military life comes first.

It's hard to tell them that their "ideas" are great, when they are trying to get you to co-sign their student loans because they've trashed their credit.

It's hard not to roll my eyes when they try to "educate" me on "the government" and how my "husband will die" if he deploys.

I love how they call me "domestic", as if they think it insults me somehow. Last time I checked, I have a roof over my head, food in my kitchen, gas in my car, and insurance on me and everything I own.

Trying to say my life is somehow worse than theirs is laughable, when about 2% of my civilian friends can say the same.

As I come to this crossroads more and more with my longtime friends, I am more and more ready to move on to developing my relationships with people of the same mindset & morals as me.

As much as someone would like, you cant stay a young dumb kid forever, though you can grow up to be a irresponsible dumb adult.

I always tell my husband, "a man is judged by the company he keeps", guess I should listen to my own advice a little more. The time for purging of people and things that add nothing to my life and only wish to take is drawing closer.

Lord make me a stone so that I may stand strong against those that would do me harm.