Some people-

Just wont ever get it. Period.

Sometimes you just wont be able to empathize with a person over a situation you've never been in, sometimes its just not possible.

Seeing a friend go though a similar situation that I've lived though is hard. It brings up the feelings I once had to go through. Even more so because I know our situations are connected by a leach of a human (ie: my EX being an ass and encouraging others to act like him)
It's a sickening feeling.

Though on one hand it feels like karma, as she stood up for my ex and his "logic" when it was happening to me. On the other, I'd never wish this upon anyone.
Its poison in your veins. A feeling of your skin crawling, you want to scream but nothing makes you feel better. This "sickness" I know she is feeling every second of every day. A sinking hole in your body that never seems to fill- no matter how much to try to close it off with positive thinking. You feel insane, you think terrible things. You wish to break things, him, that slut, your self. Your face burns from shame, you feel worthless and alone. Nothing ebbs the constant feeling of bile in your throat.
You know this person is not worth these feelings, you may even be glad it's all over. But nothing can take away the sting of betrayal. Nothing can change the fact that you were LEFT.
You were left for a "piece of ass". You put in years of work, sacrificed everything, gave your all- and for what? To be treated like you were NOTHING.

Ouch.

In the end you cant eat, the only thing you wish to drink needs a hard edge, & you pray for a sleep you wont wake up from.
It's harsh, and no one knows how bad it feels inside your own mind, because you put on a brave face.

But it should pass quickly right? Wrong.
She's a week into this, it took me three years to fully get over mine.
I can only pray that she will heal quickly.

What makes it worse is people adding their two cents.
It's a hard thing- having to tell people that not only were you left, but that they now know you are hurting. It's extra judgement, it weighs on your shoulders and soul.
Yes we know "he" is scum and should get his ass kicked (yes, "we" love hearing it) but "we" don't NEED you to tell us... It doesn't make it any easier, all it does is feed the pain.


I cant imagine how she is dealing with this, but she is, and better than most would. I only wish other people would grasp that this is a struggle that she has to face alone- no one can help her fix it. She doesn't need a white knight- she needs a band aid.
Deal. She is.